A Christian Wife should Not Deprive her husband~ {God’s Plan part 3}

Hello ladies. This is the 3rd part of my series "God's Plan for the Christian wife". Last time I shared about the Excellent Wife in Proverbs 31.  Today I want to share a topic that many Christian wives may shy away from or struggle with. My husband reminds me all the time we should not be afraid to share the Word of God unadulterated because it's absolute truth. God didn't see fit to leave sensitive subjects out so we should feel no shame in speaking about such matters either.

1 Corinthians 7:1-5 Sex within Marriage is very important because it's God’s Will.

KJV-
1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Things to consider: The sex act is a worshipful expression of the love, self-sacrifice, and union of the marriage relationship. Sex should be part of and the result of a loving marriage relationship, not just merely used as a physical release. It is not biblical to refuse sex as punishment or use it to gain control. Sex is designed to strengthen a relationship, not harm it. It is to be pleasurable and respectful. The focus is on one another. We should not practice being sexually selfish- forcing the other to do something they are not comfortable with, or unwilling to compromise on the frequency.

*For those who claim to be followers of Christ: You can’t find anywhere in scripture where it’s condoned/being acceptable by the Heavenly Father to live together (and/or having sex) before you are married. It does not matter if you already have kids and/or are engaged to be married. God does not call that marriage anywhere in the Bible, therefore it's not okay to ACT as though you are already a husband and wife. We must not be ruled by how we "feel". A true believer would not do things the way those in the world does it. We are to live to glorify God and obey His commands. Justifying reasons to go against the Word of God doesn't make it right in His eyes. Saying "He knows our heart" will not work either because it's twisting scripture. Understand that living this way does not represent what His whole purpose of marriage is all about. We must remember who we will have to answer to in the end.

You can read John Gill’s commentary to get a better understanding.

Let's take a look at this verse in other translations:

GNV (1599 Geneva Bible)-
1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me, It were good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband give unto the wife due benevolence, and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not the power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not the power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud not one another, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again come together, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

NKJV-
1 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

ESV-
1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote” “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”
2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.
4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

NASB-
1 Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.
3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

AMP-
1 Now as to the matters of which you wrote: It is good (beneficial, advantageous) for a man not to touch a woman [outside marriage].
2 But because of [the temptation to participate in] sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
3 The husband must fulfill his [marital] duty to his wife [with good will and kindness], and likewise the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have [exclusive] authority over her own body, but the husband shares with her; and likewise the husband does not have [exclusive] authority over his body, but the wife shares with him.
5 Do not deprive each other [of marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves [unhindered] to prayer, but come together again so that Satan will not tempt you [to sin] because of your lack of self-control.

*See also: 1 Corinthians 6:18, 1 Corinthians 7:9, Proverbs 5:18-19, and 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

Let us pray to not be selfish to our husband with our body:
Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for opening our eyes and helping us to see in Your Word that our bodies are not our own when we marry. Help us wives, to be obedient to Your Word by not depriving our husbands. It is not right for a Christian wife to be selfish with her body. Sexual intimacy has always been Your Will for married couples since the beginning and it’s a beautiful thing. May we be mindful that refusing our mates sexually could open the door of temptation from Satan to us or to our husbands. We don't want to follow the perverted and wicked ways of our culture. May we allow our intimacy to help create a strong marital bond with our mates in Jesus’ name. Amen!

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