"The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands". Prov.14:1 (NASB)

Thursday, August 15

Practical ways a wife can be a Help Meet

In my last post, I shared about God’s Will for the Christian wife. One way is in Genesis 2:18 where it says she is to be her husband’s help meet. A wife can help her husband emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and sexually. I looked around for ideas others shared about a wife’s role of being her husband’s helper. I wrote a list of practical ways to carry this out day-to-day that I wanted to share here in hopes of blessing other wives as well.


Practical ways a wife can be her husband’s Help meet:

* Support her husband in what he believes he’s called to do. (his vision)
* Adapt herself to her husband's callings and endeavors in life.
* Show support for her husband’s vision by using her God-given gifts/skills and abilities to help him in ways he needs it.
* Show him she is loyal to his wises, goals, and standards for their family. He needs her to believe in him.
* She should honor his leadership. (She must learn to trust God when she observes weaknesses in her husband.)
* She should follow his lead without grumbling, criticizing, and second-guessing his decisions
* She should line up her priorities with his vision for their family.
* She should assist him with tasks when he needs her help.
* He needs her to encourage and pray for him when he/they are going through tough times. (This is not the time to blame him.)
* She should be enthusiastic, express confidence in him, and praise his achievements. (Be his CHEERLEADER!)
* She should try to create a home environment where he can relax and enjoy life.
* She should seek his counsel on spiritual matters.
* She should resist the urge to condemn him (constantly remind him of his shortcomings and failures).
* She should praise his strengths and efforts/when he makes wise decisions.
* She should express how grateful she is to him for all he does for her and their family (like being a hard worker and even for the small stuff he does).
* She should work WITH HIM instead of against him (like arguing and fussing at him).
* If she has been leading the marriage and family, she should step back from controlling these areas of their lives, and hand over the reins to her husband.
* She should show interest in things that he likes to do. (Be his friend and spend time with him doing what he likes)
*She should be there for her husband when he wants her close.
* She should respond to his need for intimacy with her.
* Most importantly she should spend time in God's Word daily, as well as make a habit of praying for her husband daily. She can pray for things like his spiritual growth, leadership, job, attitude, heart, health, relationships, as so on. (As Regina noted in the comments: Spending time in God's Word daily will help us wives have a better attitude to set the tone for the rest of our day.)

I know there’s much more that could be added to this list. The main thing is for a wife to get to know HER husband, and be the kind of helper HE needs her to be. Every husband is different and unique so a wise wife will study HER man and learn HIS likes and dislikes. In order for us to be able to practice these things daily, we wives should spend time daily in the Word.

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2 comments:

Regina said...

What a sweet photo of you two.😊
I would add that we wives should spend time daily in the Word. I think it makes for a better attitude and it sets the tone for the rest of our day.

Tajuana said...

Thank you Regina! We are too cute ;-) Yes you are so right about us needing to spend time in the Word daily. It would be harder to do half the stuff on the list without the perspectives from God's Word. Adding that to the list.

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